July 12, (THEWILL) – Popular Nigerian author, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, has opened up concerning her family’s experience during the funerals of her parents saying that her experience has reaffirmed her reservations about Nigerian churches.
THEWILL recalls that Chimamanda lost her mum, Grace Ifeoma Adichie, on March 1, 2021, months after her father died.
She, along with her five other siblings buried their mum in May.
Speaking in an article titled, ”Dreaming as a single family,” published in the latest edition of the L’osservatore Romano weekly bulletin, the renowned writer alleged that the church did not treat her family with pity as they should during the funeral of both her parents.
She said: “My family’s experiences during my parents’ funerals served to reaffirm, if not renew, my reservations about the Nigerian church.
“So much could have been handled with compassion for the grieving but was not. So many opportunities to show dignity were left unused.
“Our communication with the local church was more of an exercise in priestly power than anything else; we begged and negotiated for a suitable funeral date, with an exaggerated but insincere deference shown to the Priest lest he change his mind and not agree to the funeral.”
The writer also narrated how a Priest chose to berate one of her articles in her mother’s thanksgiving service. In the article the Priest was referring to, Adichie had written about the Nigerian church’s focus on money.
She continued: “At the Thanksgiving Mass, a strange concept, as giving thanks was the last thing I felt like doing a day after the funeral —my siblings and I were seated in the front pews, all wearing purple, my mother’s favorite color, all still in shocked disbelief to have buried her so soon after my father.
“I was immersed in sadness and did not realize right away when the parish priest began to criticise me about a Press interview I had given a few months before.
“After the interview, there was both criticism and support of my views, as one would expect, but I had not given that interview any thought in months. And so I was shocked by the parish Priest standing at the altar and issuing a rejoinder, during my mother’s funeral, in terms so petty and so ill-timed as to trivialise the crushing enormity of her death.”